Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. Ephesians 4:29
This was a daily email I got from Ed Young. I don't have much to add to it other than this:
There is so much power in our words. Our very words can bring LIFE or DEATH to any situation or person. I mention our words bringing life to situations because negativity can crush motivation and make any situation turn into something unfavorable or unprofitable that could have turned out favorably and profitable. However speaking positive life-giving words into our situations can create an atmosphere of faith and motivation and confidence. Proverbs 15:4 says, "The tongue that brings healing is a tree of life but a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit" Once they are spoken they cannot be taken back. But I think sometimes we only think of scriptures about our tongues when we are trying to monitor our words. We try so hard to be cautious and NOT say the wrong thing and NOT say anything hurtful but we forget the power of the positive word too. I don't know of anyone person who would not benefit from a kind word spoken to them. I have been on the receiving end of both kind words, that DID put a smile on my face and joy in my heart that I still draw encouragement from....and hurtful words that still hurt. It doesn't take much effort to encourage someone. But the results last a lifetime. It also doesn't take much effort to say something detrimental and the results...............last a lifetime. I have been making it a habit to ask my boys, "Was that of any benefit to the person who just had to hear that? Did that encourage them in any way shape or form? Did that help to build that person up?" I think it would be wise to weigh our words with those same questions. And let's all please make an effort to speak kind words to any one you might come across today. It may make all the difference in the world. You have no idea what your words might do for them!
Beneficial Words: By Ed Young
With only a few words, we can give someone a smile that could last for days, or a broken heart that could last them a lifetime. Words have the power to heal or harm, mend or destroy. Words can be our worst enemy, or our best friend. Yet it's so easy for us to forget the power of a spoken word.
God knew when he created us that we would be impulsive creatures. He knew that we would need some direction with how to use our ability to speak. And he tells us that we should only communicate those words that will benefit others.
Because words are so powerful, we must monitor everything that comes out of our mouths. Not only to our spouse and children, but also to everyone we come in contact with throughout our day.
Before any harsh and impulsive words have a chance to leave your mouth, take some time to consider others. Remember the power that your words possess. And develop the habit of only using words that are helpful for building others up according to their needs.